Hello, my name is Eden and I want you to know it’s okay to be yourself.
Whatever type of sexuality you have, it’s okay. This sounds like a given, but it’s taken me a few decades to learn this–and I am still learning.
I was heavily slut shamed throughout my life which left me with trauma that caused me to subconsciously seek a mostly sexless relationship that lasted for fifteen years. My relationship, while wonderful, was a relief from the burden of my sexuality and from my sexual desires.
Eventually I realized although the people who shamed me were no longer in my life, I continued to repeat their sentiments to myself on a daily basis. I didn’t need them to make me feel bad anymore because I did a pretty good job of doing it myself. In fact I think I did it better.
At some point that I realized I had the power to change how I felt about my sexuality and how I expressed it in my life. It was up to me to create a positive self image regarding sexuality and femininity. I had to be my own role model because nobody could do it for me.
I started by observing my internal dialogue and worked on overcoming my self-shaming talk. I changed the judgmental attitude I had toward the sexuality of others and toward sex and relationships in general. I questioned everything I knew and looked for lessons in all of my past experiences.
Over a couple of years, everything in my life slowly changed. A cloud of shame, guilt and conditioning evaporated and I began to have empowering conversations and experiences. Even my long term relationship improved as I became more emotionally resilient.
I felt so good, I started a blog called The Barefoot Romantic where I wrote about my passion for holistic health and beauty. Needless to say, soon afterward my boyfriend and I parted amicably and I found myself single in Los Angeles after fifteen years of being off the market.
Suddenly my blog took a new direction and there hasn’t been a dull moment since.
TheBarefootRomantic.com is a place for anyone and everyone hoping to be supported and empowered in exploring their sexuality in whatever form, whether single, or in a relationship. Because I am a woman my writing tends to have a female perspective.
This is a place for those learning to date with appreciation for the moment, learning to experience without expectations and for expressing love without contingencies.
Fundamentally it all begins with you. The state of any relationship begins with the relationship you have with yourself. I promise that this is a good place to start and I invite you to come along on this journey with me.
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