4 Reasons Why Giving Head is Good For You

Your first thought may be that a man must have put me up to writing this blog post, but I actually wrote it for myself and for all the women like me. Women who want to be happy and healthy, as well as have hot thriving sex lives. It’s a common consensus that most all men enjoy being pleasured by someone’s mouth, but did you know that it’s also good for you? Here are four reasons why giving head benefits you as well.
 1. It prepares your body for sex
Biologically, sex starts in the mouth. It’s not a coincidence that intimacy begins with kissing and making out. Oral sex stimulates nerve centers in the mouth that signal to the rest of the body that intercourse is on the way. The more you engage your mouth on your man, the more you turn on your own body. That’s why fellatio is the ultimate in foreplay—not just for him, but for you.

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Sexual Expression is an Act of Bravery

Sexuality for me is a journey and I am exploring it with new eyes. Since recently becoming single after fifteen years, I have an opportunity to create the types of sexual relationships I choose and to express my sexuality in ways that I desire. But it’s scary, because I spent so long keeping it locked tightly away.

As a young girl I knew I was hyper sexual and expressing it came easily. One of my earliest memories is at four years old hiding in the closet with a neighbor friend after a bath. We took off our towels and explored each other’s bodies and it felt very natural to do so.

But quickly I learned that sex—while rampantly (and distortedly) displayed in media—was not something safe for me to express in my life.

I was heavily slut shamed. And the thing about slut shaming or any social conditioning is that after a while, you begin to do it to yourself—only harsher. Continue reading “Sexual Expression is an Act of Bravery”

The Sensualist’s Guide to Stockings – Part 3

RHT Stockings, Hold Ups, Fishnets and Affordable Alternatives

Over the last two weeks we talked about everything to do with fully fashioned back seamed stockings in Part 1, and garter belts and more in Part 2. Now to complete our 3 part series, we move on from the iconic mid-century pin up to subtle sophistication, chic modern comfort and affordability.

Reinforced Heel and Toe (RHT) Stockings

Reinforced Heel and Toe stockings—or RHT as they’re called for short—became popular in the early 1960s. They’re made in much the same way as fully fashioned stockings, but instead of being knit flat and then sewn together creating a back seam, RHT stockings are knit directly into a three dimensional tube, eliminating the need for a seam.

Women in the 1940s and 50s would have greatly desired such stockings with no seam. Today a darker contrasting back seam against a lighter stocking is a very popular and glamorous vintage look, but ladies back then would have preferred the seam to blend into the leg.

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The Sensualist’s Guide to Stockings – Part 2

Garter Belts, Panties, Donning and Doffing

Now that we’ve talked about fully fashioned back seamed stockings in Part 1, it’s time to talk about garters and garter belts. Your authentic stockings should be made from 100% non-stretch nylon which means they have no elasticity. So you’ll also need to wear something to hold them up, otherwise they will slide right down. Garters and garter belts are the solution.

There is what seems like an endless variety of garter belts to choose from, but most are not substantial enough to wear outside the bedroom. The belt should be made from a sturdy material with minimal stretch. And the garter grips should be made from metal—not plastic. A quality belt will have satin ribbons covering the grips to create a smooth surface beneath clothing.

Choose a belt with at least six garters (three on each side) as just four can still give the sensation that your stockings are falling. For an even more secure fit try eight. Vintage inspired belts are the best if for no other reason than they are made to be paired with vintage non-stretch nylons.

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The Sensualist’s Guide to Stockings – Part 1

Fully Fashioned Back Seamed Stockings

Most every sensualist likes to wear stockings, but not just any will do. Quality, luxury and authenticity must all be considered. It is a common consensus that stockings on a woman are the epitome of sexuality. They create an alluring visual and draw the eye up to the exposed top portion of thigh. But ultimately a sensualist wears stockings for herself, to feel her own strength and femininity—as well as the soft silkiness against her skin and the sensation of refined luxury.

I like to wear them, because they are a secret weapon. I enjoy knowing they are hidden underneath my skirt, and I love the delicious moment when I reveal them or when they are unwittingly discovered. Nothing feels as sexy as 100% nylon or silk and nothing looks as sexy too. It makes no difference a woman’s size or age. They bring glamour and sensuality to all who wear them.

This three part guide to stockings is for the sensualist who also aims to be a discerning connoisseur. When cheap scratchy imitations just won’t do. I’ve included something for everyone, as well as for every occasion from casual to exquisitely intimate.

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3 Ways to Let Him Know You’re Kinky (Without Telling Him)

When it comes to sex your man is a visual creature, so the best way to let him know it’s safe to express his kinky side is to do it in a visual way. Sure you could come right out and tell him, but it’s much more fun to inspire him. Here are three visual cues you can wear that will have your man topping you in no time.

1. Wear Stockings

I have yet to meet a man who can resist slapping the ass of a woman in stockings. The way the tops encircle the thighs and frame a woman’s goods is irresistibly sexy. And something about having the legs covered yet exposed near the genitals is very intriguing. If your man is innately kinky, this is the best way to see how he responds. Your stockings can be anything from fully-fashioned back seams to hold-ups and are best worn with heels. Even just simple pumps will do nicely to complete this sexy look.

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5 Ways To Attract A Sexually Dominant Man

There’s a certain type of man that women secretly pine for. He is strong and assertive, yet enlightened and gentlemanly. He’ll treat you with the utmost respect in the world, but in the bedroom he’ll bring you to your knees. So just how to you attract this man? Here are five ways that will make you irresistible to his type of masculinity.

  1. Don’t Initiate Contact

This probably is the most difficult one to follow but—don’t chase after a man unless you intend to be the dominant one in the relationship. For some women it’s what they prefer. But if you’d like the man to lead, then you must allow him to. It’s that simple. Don’t message him, don’t text, don’t call. Just respond sweetly to his advances. Keep in mind that if you want him to psychologically and sexually dominate you, then certainly he can text you.

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I Kissed a Girl

In high school I learned that boys love it when two girls kiss. It drives them wild. Once one of them dared me to kiss my best friend. And I could never refuse a dare.

“Do you want to?” I asked, expecting her to say no.

“Yeah, sure.”

“Really?”

“Yes.” She nodded.

We French kissed. It was juicy and sexy and sensual. Kissing a girl is not like kissing a boy. There’s no rough stubble or angular jaw. Just silky smooth skin and baby soft lips. We did it for them, but I liked it for me—a lot. Which at fourteen was not something I was willing to admit.

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He Asked Me To Wear Heels


When my friend suggested I sign up for online dating, I’ll admit I was apprehensive. I certainly didn’t expect to find myself in lust with a guy only a few weeks later. We had definite chemistry on the first date which ended in passionate kissing. He invited me over to his house for the second, and we both knew the night would end in more. He sent me a text the day before.

“Hmm…what are you gonna wear?”

“Any requests?”

“Heels and a skirt. And wear red lipstick.”

The dormant glamazon within me stirred. She rose to the surface once again. It called to her.

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