The Zen of Dating

When I started dating a new guy after my breakup, I felt I had to reach out to him all the time. If he was going to get the message that I was interested, then it was up to me to to inform him…constantly. 

Whenever I didn’t hear from him within 24 hours I’d reach out to him by text:

“Good morning.”

“How are you?”  

“Whatcha doing?

“I miss you.”

Yes, this was my way of reminding him that I existed. For every moment  he was not texting me or making plans, I felt that he must’ve forgotten about me and moved on.

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3 Ways to Let Him Know You’re Kinky (Without Telling Him)

When it comes to sex your man is a visual creature, so the best way to let him know it’s safe to express his kinky side is to do it in a visual way. Sure you could come right out and tell him, but it’s much more fun to inspire him. Here are three visual cues you can wear that will have your man topping you in no time.

1. Wear Stockings

I have yet to meet a man who can resist slapping the ass of a woman in stockings. The way the tops encircle the thighs and frame a woman’s goods is irresistibly sexy. And something about having the legs covered yet exposed near the genitals is very intriguing. If your man is innately kinky, this is the best way to see how he responds. Your stockings can be anything from fully-fashioned back seams to hold-ups and are best worn with heels. Even just simple pumps will do nicely to complete this sexy look.

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5 Ways To Attract A Sexually Dominant Man

There’s a certain type of man that women secretly pine for. He is strong and assertive, yet enlightened and gentlemanly. He’ll treat you with the utmost respect in the world, but in the bedroom he’ll bring you to your knees. So just how to you attract this man? Here are five ways that will make you irresistible to his type of masculinity.

  1. Don’t Initiate Contact

This probably is the most difficult one to follow but—don’t chase after a man unless you intend to be the dominant one in the relationship. For some women it’s what they prefer. But if you’d like the man to lead, then you must allow him to. It’s that simple. Don’t message him, don’t text, don’t call. Just respond sweetly to his advances. Keep in mind that if you want him to psychologically and sexually dominate you, then certainly he can text you.

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He Asked Me To Wear Heels


When my friend suggested I sign up for online dating, I’ll admit I was apprehensive. I certainly didn’t expect to find myself in lust with a guy only a few weeks later. We had definite chemistry on the first date which ended in passionate kissing. He invited me over to his house for the second, and we both knew the night would end in more. He sent me a text the day before.

“Hmm…what are you gonna wear?”

“Any requests?”

“Heels and a skirt. And wear red lipstick.”

The dormant glamazon within me stirred. She rose to the surface once again. It called to her.

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Don’t Drink and Date

The best way to start a new life single is to date lots of people. And the best way to meet them is to do it online. The algorithms so far haven’t lead me astray, so if someone is a match to me I at least know there will be some interesting conversation.

I was messaging with a guy who showed potential and who looked kind of cute in his photos. After some joking and flirtation he popped the question that every first date initiator seems to ask:

“Would you like to get a drink.”

And yes, I did.

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5 Signs You Are On a First Date With an Alpha Male

Are you someone who enjoys the intensity of an Alpha male? Have you begun to reclaim your femininity and realize you are match to this masculine energy? If so, here are five signs that an Alpha male will give on the first date and even before. If you know what to look for, you can find out what kind of man you are dealing with right away.

  1. He Switches to Texting Quickly

If you’re meeting an Alpha online, he’ll typically switch from communicating through dating sites and apps to SMS texting with limited exchanges. A good rule of thumb is for him to offer you his number within 5-15 messages between the both of you. He’s a man of action. He doesn’t want a pen pal, he wants to meet you.

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