Have you ever wanted to send your man sexy texts, but were wondering just how to go about doing it? Sexting is a sure fire way to ignite the passion between you. It doesn’t matter if you’ve just met or been together for years. Adding sex appeal to your texts can fan the flames of any relationship. Here are five tips to get you started sexy texting that will be sure to please you both.
1. Follow His Lead
If you’re apprehensive about initiating a sexy texting conversation, then wait for him to contact you. Chances are that when that he does, he has some free time to chat. And it’s best to wait until you have his full attention.
At first it helps to think of sexting as a table tennis match. Whatever he sends to you, send back. If he types one liners, then send one liners back. If he writes longer paragraphs, then do the same. A simple way to make sexting easier for you is to mirror his communication style.
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Hello, my name is Eden and I want you to know it’s okay to be yourself.
Whatever type of sexuality you have, it’s okay. This sounds like a given, but it’s taken me a few decades to learn this–and I am still learning.
I was heavily slut shamed throughout my life which left me with trauma that caused me to subconsciously seek a mostly sexless relationship that lasted for fifteen years. My relationship, while wonderful, was a relief from the burden of my sexuality and from my sexual desires.
Eventually I realized although the people who shamed me were no longer in my life, I continued to repeat their sentiments to myself on a daily basis. I didn’t need them to make me feel bad anymore because I did a pretty good job of doing it myself. In fact I think I did it better.
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In my last post I talked about the Zen of Dating and the benefits of dating with non-attachment. There isn’t a certain outcome that can be expected after a date, and it’s best (and most loving) to not expect anything at all. Even though it’s not always easy to see, the time you spent together was enough.
But, soon afterwards you may find yourself thinking thoughts like:
“Why isn’t he contacting me? He should.”
“Is he dating someone else? He shouldn’t.”
These thoughts are not helpful and can even be the source of self sabotage for the relationship. The best place for them is to be released into the ether.
But how exactly do you do that?
Continue reading “Release Stressful Thoughts about Dating with The Work”
When I started dating a new guy after my breakup, I felt I had to reach out to him all the time. If he was going to get the message that I was interested, then it was up to me to to inform him…constantly.
Whenever I didn’t hear from him within 24 hours I’d reach out to him by text:
“How are you?”
“I miss you.”
Yes, this was my way of reminding him that I existed. For every moment he was not texting me or making plans, I felt that he must’ve forgotten about me and moved on.
Continue reading “The Zen of Dating”
It all began with the photographs we’d taken. On film. That’s how long we were together. When we first started dating I didn’t have a cell phone or a computer. I had given him my phone number on a piece of paper. And when we had our first real conversation it was over a telephone with a cord.
There was still a huge box of photographs to go through since I moved out after our break up. A lot of them were of him. Even more were of us. I decided it would be best to rip it off like a Band-Aid. And that’s exactly what I did. Continue reading “My Ex’s New Girlfriend”
Your first thought may be that a man must have put me up to writing this blog post, but I actually wrote it for myself and for all the women like me. Women who want to be happy and healthy, as well as have hot thriving sex lives. It’s a common consensus that most all men enjoy being pleasured by someone’s mouth, but did you know that it’s also good for you? Here are four reasons why giving head benefits you as well.
1. It prepares your body for sex
Biologically, sex starts in the mouth. It’s not a coincidence that intimacy begins with kissing and making out. Oral sex stimulates nerve centers in the mouth that signal to the rest of the body that intercourse is on the way. The more you engage your mouth on your man, the more you turn on your own body. That’s why fellatio is the ultimate in foreplay—not just for him, but for you.
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Sexuality for me is a journey and I am exploring it with new eyes. Since recently becoming single after fifteen years, I have an opportunity to create the types of sexual relationships I choose and to express my sexuality in ways that I desire. But it’s scary, because I spent so long keeping it locked tightly away.
As a young girl I knew I was hyper sexual and expressing it came easily. One of my earliest memories is at four years old hiding in the closet with a neighbor friend after a bath. We took off our towels and explored each other’s bodies and it felt very natural to do so.
But quickly I learned that sex—while rampantly (and distortedly) displayed in media—was not something safe for me to express in my life.
I was heavily slut shamed. And the thing about slut shaming or any social conditioning is that after a while, you begin to do it to yourself—only harsher. Continue reading “Sexual Expression is an Act of Bravery”
RHT Stockings, Hold Ups, Fishnets and Affordable Alternatives
Over the last two weeks we talked about everything to do with fully fashioned back seamed stockings in Part 1, and garter belts and more in Part 2. Now to complete our 3 part series, we move on from the iconic mid-century pin up to subtle sophistication, chic modern comfort and affordability.
Reinforced Heel and Toe (RHT) Stockings
Reinforced Heel and Toe stockings—or RHT as they’re called for short—became popular in the early 1960s. They’re made in much the same way as fully fashioned stockings, but instead of being knit flat and then sewn together creating a back seam, RHT stockings are knit directly into a three dimensional tube, eliminating the need for a seam.
Women in the 1940s and 50s would have greatly desired such stockings with no seam. Today a darker contrasting back seam against a lighter stocking is a very popular and glamorous vintage look, but ladies back then would have preferred the seam to blend into the leg.
Continue reading “The Sensualist’s Guide to Stockings – Part 3”
Garter Belts, Panties, Donning and Doffing
Now that we’ve talked about fully fashioned back seamed stockings in Part 1, it’s time to talk about garters and garter belts. Your authentic stockings should be made from 100% non-stretch nylon which means they have no elasticity. So you’ll also need to wear something to hold them up, otherwise they will slide right down. Garters and garter belts are the solution.
There is what seems like an endless variety of garter belts to choose from, but most are not substantial enough to wear outside the bedroom. The belt should be made from a sturdy material with minimal stretch. And the garter grips should be made from metal—not plastic. A quality belt will have satin ribbons covering the grips to create a smooth surface beneath clothing.
Choose a belt with at least six garters (three on each side) as just four can still give the sensation that your stockings are falling. For an even more secure fit try eight. Vintage inspired belts are the best if for no other reason than they are made to be paired with vintage non-stretch nylons.
Continue reading “The Sensualist’s Guide to Stockings – Part 2”
Fully Fashioned Back Seamed Stockings
Most every sensualist likes to wear stockings, but not just any will do. Quality, luxury and authenticity must all be considered. It is a common consensus that stockings on a woman are the epitome of sexuality. They create an alluring visual and draw the eye up to the exposed top portion of thigh. But ultimately a sensualist wears stockings for herself, to feel her own strength and femininity—as well as the soft silkiness against her skin and the sensation of refined luxury.
I like to wear them, because they are a secret weapon. I enjoy knowing they are hidden underneath my skirt, and I love the delicious moment when I reveal them or when they are unwittingly discovered. Nothing feels as sexy as 100% nylon or silk and nothing looks as sexy too. It makes no difference a woman’s size or age. They bring glamour and sensuality to all who wear them.
This three part guide to stockings is for the sensualist who also aims to be a discerning connoisseur. When cheap scratchy imitations just won’t do. I’ve included something for everyone, as well as for every occasion from casual to exquisitely intimate.
Continue reading “The Sensualist’s Guide to Stockings – Part 1”